My first novel, My Friend Sancho, is now on the stands across India. It is a contemporary love story set in Mumbai, and was longlisted for the Man Asian Literary Prize 2008. To learn more about the book, click here.
I have decided that words that begin with the hard, heartless, masculine letter ‘T’ sometimes sound much better without them. For example, such charm would come to sit under a ‘ree’. How nice it would be to ‘ouch’ someone you love on the ‘ummy’. To hear the rain ‘ippetty-ap-ap’ on the roof, indeed, to travel in a ‘rain’, to ‘umble and fall’ after ‘ripping’ on an ‘omato’ that just happens, serendipitously, to be on the floor. Even the ‘Imes of India’ sounds suitably frivolous.
Indulge me—give me some similar examples that come to your mind in the comments, which are open for this post. It seems silly, but life is futile, and none of us have anything better to to do with our ‘ime’ anyway. ‘Rust’ me on that!
I made a prediction about how the series would end two years ago. And I was right! You can call it magic.
How did I like Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows? Well, as in the rest of the series, I think JK Rowling’s great skill is to keep miniature dramas erupting on the pages so that it becomes impossible to put the damn book down. There’s always some conflict involving these characters that one has grown to care about, however minor, such as the spat between Ron and Hermione, his disappearance and return, and her subsequent sulking. But the larger plot moves slowly, and is poorly constructed. The series ended in a manner too soppy (or is it sappy?) for my liking, so much so that I was glad the book ended and I wouldn’t be reading about these silly people again. But I enjoyed it thoroughly while it was on, and my magical hat is duly doffed to the magnificent lady who could give so much joy to so many people. That’s a big deal.
Robin Givhan of the Washington Post has written a piece on, of all subjects, Hillary Clinton’s cleavage. An excerpt:
Showing cleavage is a request to be engaged in a particular way. It doesn’t necessarily mean that a woman is asking to be objectified, but it does suggest a certain confidence and physical ease. It means that a woman is content being perceived as a sexual person in addition to being seen as someone who is intelligent, authoritative, witty and whatever else might define her personality. It also means that she feels that all those other characteristics are so apparent and undeniable, that they will not be overshadowed.
I’m sure feminist bloggers will have a lot to say about this, and I’ll avoid comment simply so that I don’t get into trouble. All I can say is that I’m a huge fan of cleavage, regardless of the motives behind its display. Cleavage makes the world a better place.
I suspect my buddy Manish would also have wanted to be that Swedish woman a few months ago. But he’s in New York now, having escaped India for just one reason: Broadband. Here he explains why that’s one reason Indian start-ups have it hard.)
I had mentioned earlier that Jai Arjun Singh had promised to blog about his water tank, and he has. His second post on the beginning of grihastha ashram is most entertaining, full of water tanks, dead crows and rinches. Indeed, no one in the history of writing—and I say this after exhaustive study—has written about water tanks more eloquently. Consider this paragraph:
[O]ne good thing about marriage is that it has belatedly heightened my awareness of water tanks. I realise now that I have been unpardonably neglectful of these huge black plastic things, considering this is a city where you can’t cast your gaze sky-wards without seeing dozens of them everywhere. Having not thought about water tanks at all for most of my life, I now regularly have nightmares where they gather around and tap-dance, like the penguins in Happy Feet, and then bend forward and tip their lids to show me that they are all empty. Each time I pass a tank on the road I stop and examine it respectfully, even perambulate it a couple of times.
I feel immensely jealous of Jai. The frustrations of my life are all intangible things, hard to pin down or put a shape to, or to explain to others. He has tanks!
At a pardy on Saturday night, someone at my table was telling us about a journalist who used to take bribes in the form of bags of cement, and eventually built a house off his corruption. “I dream of a day when girls throw cement panties at me,” I said. No looks of disapproval were hurled at me, so maybe the world is changing for the better.
This was at Jai Arjun Singh‘s post-wedding bash for his friends. Rahul and I had flown down for the event, and it was immense fun, largely because of all the friends I hadn’t met for so long. Nilanjana, DD, Aishwarya, Nikhil, and Chandrahas were most entertaining, as were various other poor souls without blogs.
Chandrahas did some excellent Russian-novelist-at-decadent-party expressions, while DD told me the history of India’s opium trade, informing me that India is the world’s largest exporter of opium. Immense nationalistic pride floated. Kolkata’s “Chhata Wala Gali”, where umbrellas, opium and sexual pleasures are reportedly sold on the first, second and third floors respectively, must be visited. (DD once worked on the fourth floor.)
Elaborate plans were made to pull Jai’s leg, or at least his churidar, but the poor boy looked quite harrowed as the evening went on, and we left him alone. (He reneged on his promise of performing a striptease. Shocking abrogation.) His car was also brutalised at the end of the evening, but to my lasting regret, he didn’t beat anyone up. He has promised to blog about his water tank soon.
Various people came up to me to tell me cow stories. Aishwarya brought an element of merchandising into it, telling me about a pair of boxer shorts she had once seen with a cow on the front. If you squeezed the cow, it went “moo!” (No, there were no udders, thank FSM.) I berated everyone who told me a cow story, telling them that I didn’t like cows. The cow meme on the blog was just an accident, and it’s really dogs and bears that I like. Trying to persuade them that I had moved on, I said, “Cthulhu is the new cow!”
The reason I am quoting only myself is that I had reached there in a sleep-deprived state, and my memory of events is rather fuzzy. (No, the alcohol has nothing to do with it.) I do remember a magnificent conversation I overheard when Rahul and I were at the coffee shop of a five-star hotel after the pardy, waiting out the night before our early morning flight. At an adjoining table, a bunch of young people were arguing with a waiter about some hair they found in their biriyani.
Yuppie 1: This is the third time I have ordered biriyani here, and the third time that I have found hair in it.
Waiter: Sir, that is not possible. We have three waiters in the kitchen, and two of them are bald.
I swear I am not making that up.
Anyway, back in town I slept for two hours and headed over for a BQC quiz where I came second, for the third time in four quizzes this season. Then I returned home and watched Rasmussen, and felt quite as tired as the end as he must have.
In other words, that’s why I didn’t blog all weekend. But I’m back now!
A couple of days back I received this SMS from ‘HarryPotter’:
Who is Harry Potter? Where has he come from? Now know all about Harry Potter & his magical world. Subscribe to Harry Potter alerts. Dial [snip]. Rs30 only.
Being immensely poor, I haven’t bothered to spend Rs30 to find out what these alerts will be like. Will someone speed-read the book when it is released and send updates? Who can tell?
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In other news, a good friend told me that on the morning of Harry Potter’s release, two pre-ordered copies of the book will reach her house. Why two? Well, because both she and her sister want to read the book, and they will not tolerate having to wait for it while the sibling reads it.
Immense envy comes for JK Rowling.
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How will the series end? I had predicted two years ago that Harry Potter will turn out to be a Horcrux. Let me now elaborate. It will emerge that when Voldemort killed Harry’s parents, he inadvertently made Harry his Horcrux, losing much of his powers in the process. In Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows, Harry will face an existential crisis—the only way for him to kill Voldemort will be to do immense damage to himself, and possibly die in the process. In the face of immense temptation to switch sides, he will choose to kill Voldemort, and will lose all his magical powers as he does so. In other words, he will become a Muggle again. (That will also ensure that Rowling can’t be harassed to create new Harry Potter adventures.)
Given my track record of predictions, it is immensely likely that I am wrong. Perhaps I should subscribe to those Harry Potter alerts after all.
“When my father didn’t hear well, I remember being annoyed at him,” said Don Henke, 57, who spent 33 years as a meat wholesaler around thunderous machinery.
“I regret that now,” Mr. Henke said. “I remember he would say ‘What did you say?’ and we would repeat it again. And he would say ‘What was that again?’ ” Eventually, Mr. Henke would tell him to forget it.
“That was such a terrible thing to do,” said Mr. Henke, who has difficulty hearing conversation in crowded places and who compensates by saying very little. “And now I understand what he was going through and I hope that people don’t do that to me. I’ve already warned my daughter not to do that to me.”
In different ways that don’t have anything to do with hearing, we are all surrounded by the “thunderous machinery” of life. One day we’ll all give up and say, “Never mind, I don’t care. It’s okay. Fuck it.”
When I shifted from my Blogspot site to this one, I was a bit miffed that I couldn’t carry my feed readers with me. At that time, Blogger did not allow users to redirect feeds to their new feed addresses. Well, Amit Agarwal was kind enough to call me yesterday and inform me that this has changed—he has a post up which reveals that Blogger now allows such a redirection. I have set it into motion, but if something goes wrong, please let me know.
Also, the guru behind the design and programming of this site, MadMan, has implemented print style sheets on this blog. To see what that is, go to an individual post, click ‘file’ and ‘print preview.’ It will help you print out any posts you like, so you can now distribute my pieces to all your friends at work who may not like reading things online. (You can also feed the dog, though you must make sure first that the ink is not toxic.)
Old pal and one-time colleague Abhirami Arumbakkam (aka Ammani) of ‘Quick Tales’ fame has a quiz up here on Indian bloggers. It is part of a series of contests she is holding on her blog to promote LAFTI. Do check it out—it’s a nice quiz, though it would have been much better if question No. 8 was No. 1.
Having said that, the first word in my first Extrowords, which was themed on Indian bloggers, is the answer to her first question here. Fitting, in a way.
I [am] a God of an unknowable evil. There are countless civilizations which have fallen beneath my horrible might. But in all my years I’ve never been so cruel to the universe as to produce an offspring. What unspeakable beasts are you?
Two good friends of mine, one of whom is the self-proclaimed president (and only member) of the India Uncut Fan Club, are on their way through the Himalayas (or suchlike) as I type these words. Neha Dara and Akshay Mahajan have Shez Jifri and Saira Bano for company, and they seem to be having a rocking time. Who Saira Bano? That’s the auto-rickshaw they’re travelling in. They hardly blogged through the first section of the trip—if you’re zooming through the jungles of Nepal in an auto, whaddya expect—but have built up some decent posts by now, and more posts and pictures will surely follow. So far we have:
And Akshay’s pictures are here. His photographs are a joy, check them out!
Let me place it on record here that I’m burning with envy. We all tell ourselves that we shall take off on such an adventure one day, but trapped by the inertia of everyday life, we rarely do. These kids seized the day, and I’m immensely proud of them. The fan club has a fan club now. (Recursive? What’s that?)
I’m at a conference in Delhi today, and will thus take a holiday from blogging. Rave Out, Extrowords, Workoutable and the India Uncut Blog will all now be updated tomorrow, unless I get unexpected breaks during the day. Sorry for the inconvenience caused. Rukawat ke liye khed hai, and suchlike. Boo hoo, and so on. Refunds will be given, please email your applications in triplicate. Thank you.
(But do come back tomorrow, some wtf action is promised.)
“You’re beautiful” by James Blunt, according to this poll.
I rather like that song, but I suppose I haven’t been overexposed to it like the people who voted on that poll. For them, it must be as overplayed as Himesh Reshammiya’s songs are here. (Can you listen to “Aap Ka Surrrroooorrr” 8000 times?) It also depends on which generation you belong to: I’m in my early thirties, and my all-time most irritating songs would be the 70s cliches like “Hotel California” and “Smoke on the Water” that buffoons in college would play all the time (at the start of the 90s!), the kind of chaps who had heard only eight bands in their lives (Eagles, Deep Purple, Pink Floyd, Led Zep etc etc) and had no time or space for anything else because that made them feel cool. I even remember one of them picking up an album in my hostel room once and wisecracking, “For whom is Tom Waiting?” Pah!
Two high schools in Mumbai have banned pupils from holding hands, kissing or touching on campus, warning that they will face disciplinary action if caught, officials said Monday.
The schools justified the move by saying that these acts, which are increasingly being shown by the local entertainment industry and emulated by the students, were contrary to traditional Indian values.
Fairfax County middle school student Hal Beaulieu hopped up from his lunch table one day a few months ago, sat next to his girlfriend and slipped his arm around her shoulder. That landed him a trip to the school office.
Among his crimes: hugging.
All touching—not only fighting or inappropriate touching—is against the rules at Kilmer Middle School in Vienna. Hand-holding, handshakes and high-fives? Banned. The rule has been conveyed to students this way: “NO PHYSICAL CONTACT!!!!!
Hmm. Actually, I would have welcomed such a move when I was in school. You see, I was in a boy’s school, and was deeply envious of all the fun boys in co-ed schools must have been having. “They must be touching girls,” I’d think—and then I’d start bawling. “Ban touching,” I must have demanded of any higher power that had the power.
I’ve read none of them, which is okay, not disgraceful. But I have four of them and still haven’t read them, which is shameful. Like too many book lovers I know, I buy far more than I actually read, which does afford the serendipitous pleasure of discovering something wonderful in your own cupboard that you’d forgotten you had, but also takes up much space at home, and leads to rather low savings. (“Holiday in Europe? Not this year, darling, I have, um, novels to read.”)
Anyway, no more blogging this evening, I think I’ll go read a book or something. Garrumph.
My laptop sort of fell apart and exploded and blew up my building and incinerated me earlier this week, as a result of which I have temporarily lost access to my old crossword files, and also have less time online. The publishing schedules of Extrowords and Rave Out will, thus, suffer this week. But no power on earth can stop the India Uncut Blog from being furiously updated, so keep coming.
Two good pals of mine, Neha and Akshay, are planning to participate in the Rickshaw Run later this year. It’s an immensely exciting plan, and they’re both wildly talented in different ways, but they need funds for the trip (which will end up going to charity). In return, sponsors will get karma points and prints of Akshay’s pictures, which are to die for. Do check out Akshay’s post on the subject for details, and offer support if you feel like.
There should also be a Cow Run somewhere. I can’t understand why people prefer rickshaws. Wouldn’t it be so much nicer to flag down cows in Mumbai and go from suburb to suburb. Huh?
Yesterday at the gym, puffing and panting and wondering if fitness was over-rated, I saw on the monitor in front of me a startling revelation. For a full five minutes it flashed again and again, the same caption, the one you see below: “Amitabh no farmer.”
Throughout the last Bombay Quiz Club season, every time a cricket question would be asked, people would look at me expecting me to crack it. I felt like bashing them over the head with a baseball bat. Just because I once worked in Cricinfo does not mean that I know every bit of cricket trivia under the sun, a fact underscored by my knowing hardly any of the answers in a cricket quiz that Jason from Goa has come up with. Why don’t you have a crack at it?
I note that NDTV has a recipe section, and if they can, I can. Their latest recipe is for a chicken sandwich, and I’m certain that I can tell you how to make a better chicken sandwich. After all, as the famous saying goes, “It is not chicken that makes the chicken sandwich tasty, but mother’s blogger’s love.” So, without much ado, and with immense warning to read no further if you want your friends to remain your friends, I present the India Uncut Chicken Sandwich!
That despite their obvious physical attachment to their progeny, all new mothers (both homebodies and working ones) are petrified and exhausted by turns and may undergo periods of depression and murderous rages as a result, is one of the most under-reported facts of human history. And even though most of us remember how we were routinely yelled at, slapped, pinched or punched by hassled mothers when we drove them insane with our childhood antics and public tantrums, a host of unexamined myths about mothers’ great powers of forbearance and motherhood being its own reward continue to be circulated and nursed by families.
It is true that many husbands are sensitive and affectionate, love their children deeply and are even willing to “help out”. But families make it very clear that such an offer of help is an act of generosity and the woman must be grateful for it, because his real job is his professional work, not raising children. In contrast, if the mother of young children goes back to work, she is suspect in all eyes, most of all in her own. Is she being selfish? Is she going against nature and denying her children their natural rights?
Not being a parent, I can’t add personal testimony to this, but observation bears out what Pande writes about: I have never known a mother for whom motherhood hasn’t been excruciatingly difficult and immensely thankless. I’m sure they’d all say that the rewards are worth it, and I won’t be cynical and speculate that some of them might be rationalizing.
Imagine Amitabh Bachchan standing at the Iron Pillar, trying to put his arms around it and babbling, “I want sexy. Maa, mujhe sexy chahiye. I want sexy.” Even in Hindi films can this not happen, you would imagine. But (spoiler alert) in Cheeni Kum it does. The film has many charming moments, but the bathos in the last one-third of the film destroys it.
The dialogue above sounds ridiculous out of context, but is even more ridiculous in context. Quite as much so as Amitabh’s dialogue earlier in the film about the level of the water rising because the fish are crying. Tabu looks lovely and acts well, but really, her character, what is she thinking? The problem with the character she loves in the film is not that his age is 64, but that his IQ is.
Nobody kicked my chair during this film, sadly. I’m almost beginning to miss it. Some entertainment?
I met up with an old college friend a couple of days ago, and he told me that he was planning to shift professions, and leave a mid-to-high-level marketing job to join the film industry as a beginner. (He wants to direct.) He wanted my advice.
Every career move I’ve made has arguably failed in materialistic terms, so I was hardly the right person to ask, but after warning of him of the many pitfalls that awaited him, I foolishly told him that if I was in his place, I’d follow my heart. (As indeed I’m doing in my place.) Then I got home and sent him a link to Steve Jobs’s famous speech at Stanford—cheesy in parts, but marvellously inspiring, and one that I recommend everyone should read.
And though I prefer the written text, here’s the video as well:
A friend of mine was enjoying a quiet dinner with her boyfriend at a Delhi pizza place when the children from the next table began invading their space and wrecking their dinner. Politely but firmly, she asked the mother if she could possibly keep her kids from hassling her table. Rather than offer any apology, the mother turned viciously on her. “I am sure you are the kind of woman who has no children of your own,” she snarled. “That’s why you are complaining.”
What is it with us? Why don’t we recognize that as much as we love Chunnu, Munnu, Pappu, Bunty or Pinky, the rest of the world is under no obligation to regard them with similar indulgence? Worst of all is the feeling of entitlement that prosperous parents have.They believe that because they are rich, their kids have the right to do whatever they feel like. It’s a funny thing but the children of less-wealthy or poor parents never behave quite as badly as the children of the rich.
I face such behaviour all the time. It’s happened in a restaurant, where kids from a neighbouring table have done unspeakable things to my plate, and on my complaining their mother has said to me, “Arrey, bacchay hai, karne do na?” My reply that they are her bacchay and not my bachhay made her furious, as if I was a heartless monster for not allowing her children to wreck my evening.
They are also a nuisance in cinema halls, expecially when they sit behind you and kick your chair repeatedly through the film. Adults do this as well—once, after half-an-hour of being kicked, I turned around to the teenager behind me and made the entirely reasonable request that he stop kicking my chair. “Arrey, humne bhi ticket ke paise diye hai,” he barked. (I have had the same argument offered to me when I asked a gentleman to stop snarling into his mobile phone during a film.)
I have tried various ways of dealing with this, and the most effective one, I have found, is this: Turn to your companion and say, in a voice soft enough to not be a direct insult but loud enough to be heard, “Villagers.” If you’re really angry, say “Bloody villagers.”
See, Sanghvi is entirely right when he says that such intrusive behaviour and the resulting arrogance comes largely from the nouveau riche, whose newfound prosperity may go to their head, but is accompanied by an anxiousness to appear sophisticated. For them, “Villager” is a far greater pejorative than “Bhainchod” or “Maaderchod,” even if those are also somehow accurate. It strikes at the heart of their identity, and also conveys the point that their behaviour is inappropriate. They often shut up after this, though they may kick the chair a couple of times a few minutes later to test the waters. An incredulous glare—as opposed to a merely angry one—is called for here.
Sometimes, of course, they retort. Once a group of teenagers kicked my chair and made much noise throughout a film, despite many pleas not to—there’s safety in numbers—and when the show got over I politely told them that their behaviour was out of place here, and called them villagers. They fell silent, and after I had walked a few feet towards the exit, one of them managed to think of a response. He shouted, “Abey, townie!”
The irony of that will not be lost on those who know me well.
It seems that APJ Abdul Kalam is unlikely to be re-elected India’s president, so this is an appropriate time to suggest a successor. My candidate is the Indian Mango.
I ate a Mango a couple of hours ago, and it was immensely refreshing. Most importantly, it did nothing that would be inappropriate for the president’s office. Indeed, the Mango has many qualifications that make it ideal for that exalted post, and I list some of them here:
Workoutable has been on a hiatus for a while, mainly because I was too lazy to solicit contributions. Well, those days are over. Along with my friends Sumant and Rishi, I conducted a quiz on Sunday (report here), and between us we have many, many questions for you. So that section returns to life today—a new question will be posted every weekday from now on.
If you’re interested, you can subscribe to its RSS feed here.
Meanwhile, there is a huge solo, nationwide quiz this Sunday called the Mahaquizzer, and if you enjoy quizzing, or even want to check out what it’s all about, I recommend you take part. Arul Mani has the details here.
Melody and Sakshi, the charming Bombay bloggers, are hosting a blog party on June 9 for anyone interested who happens to be in the city. Melody has promised not to perform a belly dance, which is a huge relief after the last time. Be there—bloggers can have fun too!
The United States is continuing to make large payments of roughly $1 billion a year to Pakistan for what it calls reimbursements to the country’s military for conducting counterterrorism efforts along the border with Afghanistan, even though Pakistan’s president decided eight months ago to slash patrols through the area where Al Qaeda and Taliban fighters are most active.
[...] So far, Pakistan has received more than $5.6 billion under the program over five years, more than half of the total aid the United States has sent to the country since the Sept. 11, 2001, attacks, not counting covert funds.
As I’d written in my essay, “General Musharraf’s incentives,” the carrots aren’t working. And the US is too scared to try the stick, having bought Musharraf’s bluff of après him le déluge. And so it goes…
(Link via email from Manish Vij, who has recently returned to the US, and after numerous emails about how his broadband is 82 times faster than mine, has started sending me screenshot evidence. Fug you, Mr Vij. Fug you and your broadband. We have culture and family values here in India. You can stig your broadband you know where, and make that broad too. So there.)
I return to India to find that things have changed for the better in the few days that I have gone. HBO is promoting a series of films under the branding “Reptilian Rhapsody.” Two of them involve anacondas.
Have you ever wanted a pet that could eat your neighbors?
On a tangent, one of my friends happens to live in the same building as Yukta Mookhey, and I am told that her dog keeps peeing outside his door. (My friend’s door, not the dog’s door.) Society meetings on the subject haven’t helped. A solution does come to mind now, actually…
I’m back from my hiatus, and regular blogging will now resume at India Uncut. You may breathe again. Slowly. Count to ten.
I hadn’t bothered to activate roaming on my phone, and Hutch hasn’t kept the messages sent to me in this period, so if you messaged me during this period, I wouldn’t have read it. I also have hundreds of unopened emails piled up, so if there’s an important email you sent me that you feel I should read urgently, please do resend. If it has anything to do with penis enlargement or cialis, though, don’t bother. Thanks for the thought, however.
And now onwards to Landmark and the Infinity food court. Life is good!
Thanks. It’s like this: I’m headed out of the country for a few days, and will be back on May 13. I’m off on vacation, and will be blogging very little, if at all, during this time. I have never been off for so long since India Uncut began, but it has to be done. So, for the next few days, my frequency of posts will dip drastically. On some days, I may post nothing!
Calm down, drink some water. Count to ten. Okay, hundred.
During this time, though, other sections of this site will continue getting updated. Rave Out will stick to its new Monday-Wednesday-Friday schedule of publishing. Extrowords will appear every weekday. The Linkastic boys will do their bit. And when you least expect it, I’ll show up and surprise you on the India Uncut Blog. There, see, it’s not so bad.
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I’ve learned mine can’t be filled,
only alchemized. Many times
it’s become a paragraph or a page.
But usually I’ve hidden it,
not knowing until too late
how enormous it grows in its dark.
Or how obvious it gets
when I’ve donned, say, my good
cordovans and my fine tweed vest
and walked into a room with a smile.
I might as well have been a man
with a fez and a faux silver cane.
Better, I know now, to dress it plain,
to say out loud
to some right person
in some right place
that there’s something not there
in me, something I can’t name.
That some right person
has just lit a fire under the kettle.
She hasn’t said a word.
Beneath her blue shawl
she, too, conceals a world.
But she’s amazed
how much I seem to need my emptiness,
amazed I won’t let it go.
A friend insisted I post on this subject because a man she happened to meet somewhere kept scratching his balls in public. For some reason, she found this objectionable, and felt that I should write a post advising men against such behaviour if they want to impress women. My response: If you give men a choice between scratching themselves and impressing women, they will scratch. Some things are non-negotiable. Deal with it, dude.
... India would win the gold medal in all the sprints. The Times of Indiareports:
A new global sex survey reveals that when it comes to time devoted to the sexual act, Indians get done the fastest — averaging just 13 minutes, foreplay and all. The global average is 18 minutes.
Sexologist Prakash Kothari is not surprised with the survey’s 13-minute finding. “Most Indian men use their wives as sleeping pills. They have never devoted enough time to foreplay, or the act itself.”
You will remember, of course, that Indian men have rather small organs as well. Immense sympathy comes for Indian women. If only they could know the pleasures of being with men such as, um, me. Poor things.
(Link via email from the worried Gautam John. And while searching for my previous post, I had to go through these two pages: 1, 2. Such things I wrote!)
There is much hoo-ha these days about bizarre new government guidelines that make women give details of their menstrual history on appraisal forms. S Mitra Kalita correctly points out in Mint that there is an equally invidious requirement that women in India constantly face on every form that they fill in: Father/husband’s name.
Kalita even spoke to an official in the labour ministry who told her that there is no law that requires such a question to be answered, but that “for 60-80-100 years blindly, we have been asking this question.” Don’t expect that to change. Inertia is a powerful beast.
The one requirement that has irritated me in forms that I’ve had to fill up in Pune and Mumbai is of “Father’s Name.” Why so? Well, in Maharashtra there is a custom of the father’s name being the middle name of a person, and the government here assumes that the custom holds across the country. So, say, if I wrote my father’s name as Cthulhu, my name would automatically go into the records as Amit Cthulhu Varma. Punjus and Bongs—I’m half of each—have no such custom, and I don’t have a middle name, but try explaining that to a ration-card officer.
That’s a line I particularly like from a poem by Space Bar, the newest contributor to Rave Out. That section’s coming along rather nicely, I think, and the already-healthy contributors list will have a couple of new additions in the next couple of weeks that will make it rock even more. Watch that space.
And yes, just as floors love feet, my keyboard loves my fingers. Such is the level of obsession there that I fear that such a love affair can only be doomed. Its offspring, of course, exist for your pleasure.
It’s realizing that doing intellectual things socially is a lot of fun—it makes sense. We don’t plan on paying people, either, to contribute. People don’t ask, “Gosh, why are all these people playing basketball for fun? Some people get paid a lot of money to do that.”
Bang on. Also, please stop asking me if I make any money through this website. Bounce bounce bounce.
My broadband has been down today, and my productivity, on a terribly slow dial-up, has been about a third of what it should be. I’m off to watch a film in a few minutes, so will come back and finish off the routine India Uncut tasks, like putting up the latest Rave Out, Extrowords and Workoutable posts.
I think of myself as immensely lucky to have been born at the right time to benefit from the internet. Nothing I do today would have been possible before the internet, and you would never have heard of me, leave alone read my writing. And my shift to this new site, from Blogspot, would have been futile if not for broadband: on a dial-up, all my daily tasks would have taken too long. Immense gratitude comes.
Of course, you might look at my condition now and say that I’m enslaved by technology, but this is a temporary lull in the middle of much empowerment. If Tata Indicom doesn’t give me back my broadband by evening, though, violence will ensue!
Posted by Amit Varma on 29 March, 2007 in
As many of you have pointed out, I’ve been somewhat infrequent in updating Extrowords over the last couple of weeks. This has happened because I’ve been madly busy: I’ve actually been making two crosswords a day, one for Mint and the other a cricket puzzle for Mid Day that will last the duration of the World Cup. A third one simply got too much for me.
But there was no point in having that section if it wasn’t updated regularly, and Mint has been kind enough to give me permission to run some of the crosswords I do for them on Extrowords. I hadn’t considered it earlier, as the kind of themes I do for them (“Mutual Fund Families” for example) would probably not interest my readers here. But some would, and those will be carried here. The crosswords I’m carrying from there will have “mint” somewhere in the url, which is how you can tell them from the others.
Check out I Used to Believe, an awesome site that collects silly beliefs that people had as children. A few examples:
Quarter of an hour is 25 minutes.
If you don’t hold your breath as you pass a cemetery you will die or become possessed.
You can get pregnant from kissing.
You must marry someone with the same surname as you.
Oral sex is talking about sex.
Chocolate milk comes from brown cows.
Great delight. Should I confess? Okay, a couple of mine:
1] When I was a kid, certainly years before puberty, a school friend asked me what women’s breasts looked like. “They’re like balloons,” I informed him. “Girls don’t have nipples.”
2] As time went by, I discovered that women had nipples. One day a classmate asked me how girls masturbated. I wanted to appear knowledgeable, so I quickly improvised and said, “They play with their nipples.” (I was in a boys school, naturally.)
3] For a few weeks after I discovered erections, I wondered if there was something wrong with me. I’d seen my ding-dong in two states, but in all the pictures I saw of statues of naked men, there was only one kind of ding-dong depicted. I thought I might have a ding-dong disease.
4] At different stages in my childhood, I have even believed in God and palmistry and benevolent government. I also believed in the concept of soul mates. The horror!
Enough! No more! It’s your turn now, comments are open, do share your silly childhood beliefs. And don’t comment on mine, please. Thank you.
In 2001 when I took up a job at Wisden, I told myself that this would be the last job of my life, I’d become a full-time writer after this. Well, that gig lasted a bit longer than I’d expected, as Wisden bought Cricinfo and I was its managing editor for a while in India, but I finally managed to break loose late last year. Immense relief came. Vast quantities of freedom unleashed itself upon me.
This does present a problem, though. Every once in a while people ask me what I do, and will not be satisfied with any answer I give. If I say I’m a blogger, they look at me as if I’m mad. If I say I’m a writer, they look at me as if I’m crazy. If I say I make crosswords for a living, they check my temperature, their clammy palm trembling on my sensuous forehead.
So I simply say I’m unemployed, and smile widely. I tried this at a quiz at NMIMS a few days ago (report here), when the finalists were announced. It was an open quiz, and all the other teams were from corporations or colleges. When our turn came to introduce ourselves, the quizmaster, a Kolkata veteran named Gautam Ghosh (not the blogger), asked me where we were from.
“We’re from nowhere,” I said. “At least I’m not. I’m unemployed.”
Mr Ghosh’s mouth fell open. “You are what?” he asked, his voice tinged with obvious concern.
In a wonderful series where masters and their protégés talk about each other, the young golfer Henrietta Brockway says:
Golf is pretty addictive. You hit 20 bad shots, then you hit one good one. You want to hit that good one again and again so you just keep trying and trying and trying.
I think that’s true of writing as well. But here’s the problem: in golf, you know when you hit a bad shot, because it hits a bunker or goes into the woods or misses the green by a long way. In writing, it’s not so clear, and depends on an individual’s judgement. Some writers could think that every shot is a good shot, and fool themselves into easy satisfaction. Others could set their bar too high, and be forever scared to write because their definition of a good shot is one that Calvino or Kundera played, and no beginning writer can compete against those. I think the ones that make it minimise the self-delusion, but have the courage to persevere even when they are racked with self-doubt, as all good writers inevitably are at some point.
Needless to say, writing about writing is easier than the writing itself. Pah.